When is Enough Enough ?

How many of us think we haven't or we are not doing enough in our own lives?

I have a busy schedule, and so many things are going on in my life. But for some reason,

I think whatever I do was never enough. I recall many times saying or thinking to myself

"you aren’t doing enough",

when in fact I was and I am probably still doing more than I need to in life.

So if I do so much and I am so tired and burnt out, why do I feel like I don't have much to show nor have I reached the goals I have set for myself ?

I stopped to think and I noticed when people get so overly busy, they are looking for answers, hope, time and excuses to a way out in what they are doing. Not truly working towards their own personal goals. We become to Busy with others problems, others goals, others successes that we get distracted from their own goals, to Busy to not see a decline in your own mental,finical, physical and relationships health. We get involved in everything that comes our way, but we aren’t finding time to better ourselves, just a bunch of work, stress and burdens. And I believe it’s because we are chasing things that are not for us and that don't help us move forward. Its easy for us to do the same thing day in and day out no matter how much we dislike it because it's not as scary as the unknown.

WOW I think that makes a lot of sense but why would you or I not want to invest in our own goals or success. Could it be are creatures of habit?

Are we becoming our own stumbling blocks?

have we become OK moving along in life as blind mice because that's what everyone else is doing. When does the habit of wanting to better our life come in and replace the the habit of being complacent in being average or working below our own potential.

 ENOUGH IS ENOUGH! NEVER SETTLE!!!!

CHANGE GONNA COME...

Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.

“One of the main weaknesses of mankind is the average person’s familiarity with the word ‘impossible.’ He knows all the rules that will not work. He knows all the things that cannot be done.”  Napoleon Hill

Right now, this very second we literally have hundreds of choices to do anything we want right now.We have the choice to choose our career, the country / countries we live in, the friends we hang out with, how we plan to go through our day and even the food we will eat tonight.

As long as I have my health and my two feet, then I have all I need to make these choices, even if it requires some time and work to get to them. Im at a point in life where every choice I make right now has an impact on my future and the future of many others. Whether I choose to accept this or not it is true.
Right now at this moment I feel that life has its grasp upon me and is guiding me to where I need to be. why should I fight it and go against the momentum?
It sounds funny ( even to me ) but the more I let go of my life and am able to accept that I dont have full control of the actions of others or the twist, turns and obstacles that venture in to our lives,The better my life has become. Im not saying I am rich or that I am the most happy person in the world, but things are coming to me with a great deal of ease, Im starting to listen to myself again now that my head is becoming less filled with hateful and negative thoughts. I feel as if air is being forced in to my lungs making me take in deep breaths of creativity, hope and drive.
The fact is we all only have a certain amount of time in our lives no matter how long or short that may be.This self-discovery that I am experiencing is amazing and I am learning how to give myself  to not only other people but most importantly to myself.

I have goals and I plan on making them all real, I have struggled enough in my life now I must live.

Make your list and add to it daily.

I want adventures.
I want to be happy.
I want to see the world. Travel from country to country.
I want to experience different cultures and meet people from all walks to life.
I want to be a man of strength and power in my community.
I want to laugh and have fun with my friends and family.
I want to help others reach their dreams.
I want to be the best father I can be.
I want enough money to live comfortably and not have to worry about how to pay the monthly bills.
I want to be fit and healthy for as long as possible.

List your goals no matter how big or small and make choices that build towards the future person you want to be. Shape your own future stop letting other people design your future for you.
( WE HAVE THE POWER TO DO THIS !!!!! )

Communication Is Key .....

Comunication is 60% body language 30% Tone and 10% words.

Body language is the biggest form non-verbal communication, which is made up of body posture, gestures, facial expressions, and eye movements. We send and interpret all of those without being aware of them. Body language may provide clues about the feelings and attitude of the person we are talking to, it may show aggression towards us, boredom in the conversation, or genuine interest. It can also lose you some money in poker if your not careful. So if body lanuge is so imporant why do we even talk at times ?

Now on to Tone, "Watch your tone with me!” Have you ever been told that as a child or teenager? Our tone has various feelings: anger, frustration, joy, happiness, we may sound distracted or preoccupied, be sarcastic, and all of those will influence how others hear what we are saying and how they will interpret our underlying message. So with out a thought we can change someones reseptive nature just by how we speak .....

I dont entierly belive that 60 / 30 / 10 throry, granted it does have truth to it in a big way but spoken words affect us on a deeper level than any of us can imagine and can affect us for many years, if not for a lifetime.
Think back to our childhood, what words did you hear about yourself or were said to you: beautiful, handsome, smart, clever, champ, winner or ugly, bad, stupid, dummy, good for nothing, loser, these words still linger in the mind many years even lifetimes after they were uttered.
How did they affect your current life?
Did you believe that you can do anything, and you couldn't lose taking risks to achieve more in life, or did you stay back, not wanting to contiune being a loser believing that you will not succeed anyway, so why even try? If you answered ‘‘yes’’ to any of these examples, you understand that oftentimes the people who used those negative words towards us were themselves so insecure in themselves that they used that form of communication to keep us feeling down, for their fears that we may rise higher than them. It is time to reconsider why those beliefs still have strongholds on your life; maybe you believed them then, but you do not have to believe them anymore, so let go of them.
I was called stupid, dumb ass, and what ever other names daily as a child and I in no way feel remotly close to any of these terribe words but it took time for me to really look at myself and find my wealth, my value and to define my self with my own words. See words create pictures in our mind, and those pictures create outward actions.So instead of concentrating on my problems, I like to focus on solutions in my life. Words are powerful tools that can help change our mind and our lives.
They create visions, which can be positive, Use your words to build up yourself and others, for never before and never again will there be another one of you.
Some of the most powerful words I ever spoke were those following “I” or “I am”, If you hear someone say to you “You are stupid” you have the power to either accept it or reject it, now if you hear yourself saying “I am so stupid” you will not have the power to reject it, since it came out of your own mouth. Each word out of your own mouth should be positive, good, and encouraging, to enrich your life, and those of others around you. I see this more and more everyday now with my son on the way, my eyes are open to the fact that words are so much more then sharp ideas, funny jokes or passonatie secrets they are the stones that can elevate a man to greatness or wheight upon his back to his demise..



WORDS CAN BUILD OR DESTROY IT'S OUR CHOICE HOW TO USE THEM..

Can a zebra change it's stripes

Ever heard the expression “a zebra never changes its stripes” or “a leopard never changes its spots”? They’re used in reference to change, or more accurately, inability to change. Simply put it means that people’s personalities are unlikely to shift suddenly in one direction or another. An expression that encapsulates this thought is one you’ve most likely already heard, “once a cheater, always a cheater”.
I’m beginning to believe that the thought of people changing, myself included,
is more along the lines of fantasy, not reality. It seems more fitting to say that the pattern people’s personalities take as they mature is one of growth, not change.

For a change to occur in a person’s behavior there has to first be a revelation,
a moment of clarity where they realize something is wrong or that a situation could have been handled better. Not easily manufactured! Yet even with revelation,
it’s assumed that they have the humility to admit fault and want to change.

Rest assured I’m not losing my faith in humanity; rather I’m identifying trends in human behavior, which I’m only beginning to understand. The expectation that people “can” change, even if they want to has proven to me a foolish one.
In my experience this only leads to anguish and frustration.

The gravity of the expression “a zebra never changes its stripes” is often felt when trying to answer the question, what do I do when someone I care about cannot get passed a monumental path of errors and mistakes that constanly take them down the wrong path,yet they seem so insignificant to them.
When all you want for them is freedom from their self-perpetuating internal jail, yet your seemingly helpful words fall on deaf ears.

Well I’m still working that one out, but what I do know for certain is that you cannot change for them. I know that sounds obvious but the truth is you cannot sacrifice yourself for someone with an expectation that your sacrifice will give them an “ahh ha” experience. In many cases the kindest yet hardest thing you can do is let them fall. Change as it seems, is futile without consequence.

My feelings towards someone being able to alter their personality for the better (provided they want to) as radically as “change” implies, are similar to those I have for someone trying to quit smoking cold turkey, it’s painful for them, it’s unpleasant for everyone around them and it rarely works.

Upon reflection of recent personal experiences, the validity of the expression “a zebra never changes its stripes” appears more accurate than I want to believe.

That said, people can suprise you, they’re just unlikely to.